Growing up, I had a mom who was always angry and quick to yell at a moments notice. I swore I would be a calmer parent...but that was easier said than done.
Being a mom requires a lot of patience. Learning how to control your anger as a mom can really help for the days you just don't have the patience for ANYTHING.
I've been there many times too...lost my anger by quickly reacting and then almost immediately regretted it. I want my kids to remember me as a patient mom which is why I started learning to control my anger.
Tips to control your temper
1. Don't react right away. When you give yourself a minute or even a moment to take a deep breath you can analyze the situation and react calmly.
It's easy to yell right away, but over time you will learn that yelling shouldn't be your immediate response.
2. Explain your emotions. A lot of times anger is just our frustration for not being able to express how we feel.
The next time your child throws food on the ground or is hitting their brother, calmly tell them how it makes you feel. "That makes mama angry, please don't do that again."
3. Think to yourself..."is it really worth it". Every time you are starting to feel yourself lose control of your anger, ask yourself... "is it really worth it?"
4. Find time for yourself. When you are at your wit's end and everything seems to make you angry, it might be a sign you need some time to yourself. Self-care is so important for moms because we can't pour from an empty cup.
There are definitely times when anger is warranted when you are trying to keep your kids safe, but if they were being silly or goofy you can probably react a little more patient.
What triggers your anger
In order to control your anger, you need to know what triggers it.
Then, you can come up with solutions together with your kids to help alleviate temper triggers.
Remember mamas, no one is perfect. We all get angry, but you can help teach yourself to react more calmly!