The excitement of pregnancy can quickly be replaced with grief when you experience a miscarriage.
Here's an honest look at how to cope from a mom who's had 5 miscarriage, and 2 rainbow babies.
How to Cope
- Find someone to talk to.
- Give yourself permission to let your emotions out.
- Unfollow social media influencers who share a lot about baby/pregnancy stuff.
- Break something
1.Find someone to talk to
Whether it's a close friend, sister, or even your mom, but find someone to talk to. No one should have to bear the grief by themselves.
You will also be surprised at how many around you have had miscarriages too, not that it makes you feel better, but at least you won't feel alone.
2. Give yourself permission to let your emotions out
When you feel like crying, cry. When you feel like getting angry, get angry.
An important part of grief recovery is to go through all the emotions.
3. Unfollow instagram influencers who share a lot about baby/pregnancy stuff
I'd recommend this for the first month at least of your miscarriage. While the cute baby photos are usually fun, to a mom who just lost her baby or had a miscarriage, it's like a knife in the gut.
4. Break something
This goes back to the emotions, but one way to really let your anger out is to break something.
There's something rather therapeutic to breaking something when you are angry with grief.
Just make sure it's something that can be easily replaced.
5 Stages of Grief
With any grief, these stages come and go in different order. It's important to let yourself go through each one of these stages after your miscarriage.
Once you've found acceptance and feel like you have recovered from your miscarriage, then and only then should you think about trying for another baby.
You have to first go through the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Through these stages, find someone to talk to about it, whether it's or mom, your friend, or your partner.
Yes, you are still a mom after miscarriage. You loved that precious little one and now feel the heartbreak of all the memories you should have had.
You were excited and dreamed of the future with your little one. Then, that was robbed. As with any grief, it takes time to get over it.
Hang in there mama! There is no right or wrong way to cope, but it's important to know this grieving process will take time.